Confusional Arousals (Sleep Drunkenness)

confusional arousals cartoonIf you’ve ever experienced confusional arousals, you may have done something as equally strange as what I’m about to describe.

Two weeks ago, I woke up in the middle of the night feeling a little thirsty.

But instead of doing the logical thing and reaching for the glass of water on my bedside table, I picked up my phone.

It was only when lifted it to my mouth that I must have realized that it didn’t contain anything drinkable, and put it back on the table.

I then vaguely remember rummaging around for the real glass of water and knocking it off the table onto the stone floor.

I think the sound of the shattering glass must have snapped me out of the confused state. But even then I couldn’t quite understand what I was trying to do.

Over the next few minutes I slowly came back to reality, and of course got up to clean the floor. It was only when I was back in bed that it dawned on me what a strange experience it had been.

It seems I’d experienced an episode of what’s known as confusional arousals. I’m sure it wasn’t the first time either, but like many people, I probably don’t usually remember it.

Do you wake up confused and do unusual things?

If you sometimes wake up confused and perhaps do unusual or even dangerous things, it could be that you’ve also experienced confusional arousals.

And if the official medical label is a little strange, you can always opt for the more popular name of ‘sleep drunkenness’.

In this article, I’ll be taking a look at what confusional arousals are, what causes them and what can be done about them.

I’ll also discuss some fascinating research which shows how common a sleep disorder it is, and who is more likely to have it.

Poll results

Back in 2015, I ran a poll to find out how often readers experience confusional arousals.

Note that it’s a poll of people reading this article because it’s relevant to them. So the figure of 2.8% who have never had them would be much higher in the general population.

Interestingly though, out of 657 readers, 230 said they have confusional arousals very regularly – between 1 and 3 times per week. However, 188 people only have a few per year.

chart showing the results of a poll into the frequency people experience confusional arousals

What are confusional arousals?

The International Classification of Sleep Disorders diagnostic manual describes confusional arousals as being when someone wakes up in a confused state.

That might sound obvious, but the confusion can take different forms. For example, you might be confused about who you are, where you are, or what’s happening around you.

If someone talks to you, you might have slow or slurred speech. And you might give short, blunt answers to questions, or make no sense at all.

It typically happens on waking from the slow wave stage of sleep in the first third of the night. But it can also occur when waking from any stage of sleep.

In the spectrum of sleep disorders, confusional arousals are classified under the parasomnias category. Parasomnias include other disruptive sleep occurrences like sleep talking, sleep paralysis and nightmares.

Who experiences confusional arousals?

It’s believed that an equal number of men and women experience confusional arousals. And it’s more common in children and adults under the age of 35.

In 2014, researchers at the Stanford University School of Medicine published a fascinating piece of research into the disorder.

The research made major news headlines, perhaps in part due to the captivating title of ‘sleep drunkenness’.

Importantly, they discovered that it’s surprisingly common and that some groups of people are much more likely to have it.

Key points and findings

Here are the main findings of the Stanford study:

  • They interviewed 19,136 adults in the United States.
  • 15.2% had experienced confusional arousals in the last year. Over 50% of those had experienced it more than once a week.

Of the 15.2% who had confusional arousals, they found:

  • 84% had either a sleep disorder, a mental health disorder, or were taking psychotropic drugs.
  • 70.8% had another sleep disorder.
  • 14.8% sleepwalk.
  • 37.4% had a mental disorder (mostly bipolar disorder, panic disorder and depression).
  • 31.3% were using psychotropic medication (mainly anti-depressants).
  • Just 0.9% had no related condition or identifiable cause and could be said to have a confusional arousal disorder.
  • 8.6% have either partial or no memory of episodes.

Different types of confusion

The study found the following were the most common types of behavior or confusion:

  • Temporospatial disorientation (confusion about where or when they are): 57%
  • Hallucinations: 36%
  • Difficulty speaking or thinking clearly: 34%
  • Confused behaviors: 20%
  • Sleepwalking: 15%
  • No memory of episodes: 9%

Aggressive behavior provoked by another person

Do you or someone you know sometimes act in an aggressive way during an episode? This is understandably worrying and can be stressful for partners. So why does it happen and what can you do about it?

In 2007, the American Academy of Sleep Medicine reported an interesting review of violent episodes during arousal disorders.

They found violent episodes aren’t common. But when they do happen, it’s usually in two situations:

  • If someone wakes you up.
  • When you behave in a complex way in bed in your sleep, and someone else tried to calm you by holding or grabbing you.

So perhaps it’s best to avoid physical contact with someone having an episode unless they are putting themselves or others in danger. And to try to avoid waking someone up who is prone to confusional arousals.

Risk factors

Taking into account the above studies and current thinking, The American Academy of Sleep Medicine lists several possible risk factors and causes:

  • Shift work
  • Sleep disorders – sleep apnea, periodic limb movement disorder, insomnia, hypersomnia, circadian rhythm sleep disorder
  • Lack of sleep and sleep deprivation
  • Stress and worry
  • Psychotropic medication
  • Drug abuse
  • Being woken up suddenly
  • Bipolar and depressive disorder
  • Alcohol

confusional arousals risk factors infographic

Treatment and prevention

There isn’t a specific cure for confusional arousals as such, and no one-size-fits-all treatment.

If your child is experiencing it, it’s important to raise it with their doctor. They might want to do tests to rule out physical causes like epilepsy.

As an adult, if another sleep disorder is causing it, that’s what needs to be treated. This is something to speak to your doctor about, especially if you have signs of a serious sleep disorder like sleep apnea.

The same applies to mental health conditions that can be treated and managed. And if you’re taking medication like anti-depressants, it’s a good idea to mention the episodes to your doctor.

It’s also important to try to focus on your sleep and make sure you’re getting enough – don’t allow yourself to become sleep deprived over time.

Reducing the amount of alcohol you drink or cutting it out altogether might help.

And the advice from sleep professionals is as always to practice good sleep hygiene. In particular, find ways to reduce stress, develop a consistent and relaxing bedtime routine so you go to bed in a calm frame of mind.

You’re not alone

One final note if you’ve been worrying about your behavior is to remember that you’re not alone. Don’t be embarrassed or think you’re abnormal because of what you do when you’re not fully aware.

Many people experience sleep disorders or go through periods where bizarre things happen to them at night, to the point of thinking they’re going crazy.

But if it’s worrying you or having an impact on your life or relationships, it’s a good idea to speak to a doctor. At the very least they should be able to set your mind at ease.

The funny side

Personally, I choose to deal with it by trying not to take it too seriously. I try to laugh at myself when I do strange things like attempt to leave my bedroom via the wardrobe.

I know I have other sleep problems and am constantly working on those. So I hope that one day I’ll get on top of my sleep problems once and for all. Perhaps the sleep drunkenness will then resolve too.

But until then, other than worrying about replacing a broken glass, I’m able to see the funny side. I remind myself that little events like this can make life all the more colorful.

Understandably, if your confusional arousal episodes are causing problems because of aggressive behavior, sleep disruption or complaints from a partner, you might not see the funny side.

But if it’s just the occasional event of mistaking your phone for a lamp, or not knowing who you are for a moment, then perhaps a smile or laugh is the best way to stop yourself get stressed by it.

Your thoughts

If you’ve experienced confusional arousals I’d be very interested to hear from you. What exactly happens during your episodes? Have you found anything makes them more or less frequent?

It’s often the case that readers find reassurance in knowing that they aren’t the only ones who experience a particular sleep disorder. So please feel free to share you your story in the comments below.

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  • I have this happen to me when I’m running a slight fever.
    My latest episode happened last night when I woke and thought I was in a dark Shed with cobwebs around me. I panicked for a few seconds sitting up and looking around having no idea where I was, I was so scared! then suddenly I could see that I was in my bedroom and I instantly became calm.

  • Hi. I think something is wrong with me. I woke up and couldn’t remember my husband face. I tried so hard to think of anything to remind me or strike a thought; so that I can remember, how his face look. When he walked in the room, that’s when my memory came back. I am so confused. Please help me

  • A few years back I was working shiftwork and I would wake up in the middle the night and make a mess of the kitchen and cook. Then when the alarm went off me to go to work I wouldn’t wake up fully. It’s kind of scary and my Son Took me to the emergency room one time and they did a CAT scan and said I was fine but that I needed to sleep with my head elevated. Now the last two days I’ve been doing that again and as a matter fact in the middle of the day, I’m a realtor, and I was taking pictures of a house to list it and the next thing I remember is driving down another part of town. That was scary because I didn’t remember even leaving the house or driving to the location I was at. I thought it was low blood sugar but my blood sugar wasn’t that low. So I ended up having to go back to the house to make sure I even locked it up. I could’ve killed somebody driving like that and I don’t know what to do about it. Today I’m feeling kind of funny to but I’m not going to drive to be safe. Please help me, I don’t like Feeling like this.

  • I have had this experience only very rarely but I have just had it again tonight . I often leave a DVD playing quite softly , perhaps some light comedy, and I fall asleep to that when I’m on my own. I am always afraid of intruders during the night time. The room is dark apart from the television and I fall asleep. Then suddenly I hear the door chime sounding , very loud, only I think it’s the phone by my bed ( the door chime is on the other side of the room ) I look at the phone.I can’t sort it out.I get up prepared to repel boarders, it is gone midnight after all. I go downstairs. All the major doors are locked on the inside, and additional bolts are in place, there’s no one in the main room or indeed anywhere in the house. I put on the outside light and notice the main gate is shut and no one is in the garden. I don’t notice any alarm notification on the main control panel, usually a blue flashing light ( this would show someone has entered ). Can this be an halucination? Could it be confused waking? such as you describe or have I misinterpreted some noise. ( I have had it previously,&thought it was the phone but no calls were recorded ) It is so real. I should point out I do get rare attacks of sleep apnea and not infrequently wake confused about appointments for the day.

  • Hi, the first time I started having these episodes is when I started traveling. The very first episode I ever had was me getting up in the middle of the night at a hotel and thinking “why am I in this hotel”, “this isn’t my hotel room” but it was my hotel room…. I got up walked outside of my hotel room and finally snapped out of it and realized it was my hotel room. The second episode I had was the very next day… i came home from a vacation and got up in the middle of the night and got on my phone and called my sister and told her I didn’t know where I was!!! I was in my bedroom!!!!

  • I’ve noted these things for at least 6 months, I’ve had so many sleep issues they’ve maybe been around longer. Upon starting to wake and not being able to move much, on these days, I don’t know where I am. But I am always me. I cannot figure out what age I am, what house I am living in, what stage of life I am in, what room, if it’s one of the houses I grew up in or the one my family and I live in now. My eyes won’t open and I try and feel blankets and guess by the atmosphere. I do not move until my senses are aware and my eyes are able to open. I’m not a fan at all.

  • I woke up at 3 am to call my boyfriend who works night shift . But when I woke up , I felt like I had to do something and I have forgotten it. Like, I couldn’t recollect what I had to do. I felt like I had to evaluate answer sheets and was going through my phone to find a reminder about it (to know if I actually had any) . It continued for almost 5-8 minutes. I was in a confused state during that time. But when I became more conscious, I was like “What the hell was I looking for?” and was scared aboyt what was actually happening to me. I had suffered from anxiety disorder before. So I thought this might be something related to that. That’s why I searched online to know why that actually happened with me. Now I know….

  • I was talking on the ‘phone late at night, and I was dozing off, because I was so tired. I jumped awake and didn’t recognise the room I was in. This lasted or a few seconds. I often wake from a half sleep state, feeling confused and disoriented for a few seconds. It is as though my brain can’t catch up with me. This makes me panic like mad, even though it lasts only seconds.I am on a cocktail of medications, including bisoprolol. I think that beta-blockers could be the cause. I am on 10mgs, which is quite high.

    This usually happens when I am just dozing off; then I open my eyes, and whatever I am looking at feels unfamiliar. It is really freaky.

    This evening, for instance, I dozed off whilst knitting. I was only just drifting off, when I suddenly woke up, knitting still in my hands. It was as though my eyes recognised them as my hands but, for a few seconds, my brain didn’t. I kept blinking my eyes and sat bolt upright in a state of utter terror.

    I’m not describing this very well, but does anyone else have similar experiences? Perhaps you could describe them better than I can. I’d love to hear about experiences similar to mine.

  • Hi I’m 22 years old. I started having this problem for about two years or less. Idk if it’s bc I have two jobs and I work about 50 hours each week which I don’t think is that bad honestly. But I do need to take a daily nap to function. I try my best not to Bc I hate sleeping w.e I have of my day left. But I can’t stay awake so I sleep for 2-3 hours after work. Sometimes my family tries to wake me up and I don’t wake up no matter how many times they call me. They say I woke up and went back to sleep but I don’t remember. I’ve also answered phone calls from my bf when I’m asleep and I don’t remember talking on the phone till I actually see the phone all there. They say I also say stuff that makes no sence sometimes. Does this happen to other people? Can this eventually go away? I hate having to deal with this

    • I do this too! Makes me feel crazy! I went to an ENT and had a home sleep study to try to find the reason for my “fatigue” the ENT just looked inside my nose and said I had a sinus infection and ordered a home sleep study only after I begged and bothered him! It came back that I snore. Nothing else – only the wires kept coming off at night and I breathe through my mouth at night so I think that whole home study was a bunch of balogna… But anyway! Try to see if you have sleep apnea!! That could be why you are so tired! You aren’t getting enough REM sleep.

      • Sleep apnea wreaked havoc on me! Sometimes I found it impossible to stay awake during the day and had to take a nap first thing after work. I almost ran off the road on my way home from work. I had hallucinations at night and panic attacks. My doc suggested a sleep study and it came back positive. After a couple of weeks I felt like a new person! But I still have the sleep drunkenness. I wake up many mornings thinking I’m in my childhood home, and my parents are there. They both passed away over 20 years ago and there’s only my wife and me in our home since my children have flown the coop. I was scared I had dementia or early Alzheimer’s. This make me feel better.

    • Everyone does this to an extent. You just sound very tired. I wouldnt even say its a sleep disorder. I would ask that people not call you during sleeping hours as its apparent you arent getting quality sleep if its being disturbed :) If your on call I recommend a bepper and shutting your phone off when you sleep. People need to respect your sleep times.

  • A week ago I woke very early, decided to stay up even though I wanted to go back to sleep as I was very tired. Had a cup of coffee and went to the store and to do another errand. Came home and went back to bed, fell sound asleep and woke up, looked at my phone to check my bank balance and couldn’t understand what one of the accounts was. Couldn’t remember if I’d gone to the store that morning or not. Went to the ER where they thought I may have had a TIA, but No physical symptoms at all, knew by then it was a savings account, recalled going to the store, but not all the details of it. CAT scan was fine. Scared me so much and I’m still uneasy. My blood pressure is fine, no other symptoms of anything wrong. Please tell me what you think. Thank you ever so much.

  • I seem to wake up early in the morning with my head going over the tasks i should have completed over the course of my sleep, the tasks all seems very sensible and real in my head. Only for two minutes later for me to realise the riduculousness of it all, and then forget what the tasks i’m supposed to have completed are. Happens regularly, very strange. Also when looking at my alarm clock after waking up my head seems to think it is continously changing fonts and what its tasks are. Also very strange. I can’t explain either action.

  • Well my mom just came in to my room to ask me where her mother who has been dead for 8 years is and I was worried she was showing early signs of Alzheimers or something. Is this confusional arousals?

    • Well l’m no medic but has this happened once only? My father had Alzheimers and the overriding question was always asking where his mom was. Having said that both my parents have been dead around 8 years. I was their main carer and l still leap out of bed some mornings fearing l am late getting to them. I don’t have any sort of dementia. I’ve been tested and tested. I’d keep an eye on things if l were you.

  • Hi,
    I experienced this the other night. All I’m going to say it was absolutely terrifying! I felt like I was going to pass out with panic inside me. Never felt like this in my life.
    I was woken up and I literally just jumped out of bed I started running downstairs to my mums room. I was confused and I had no idea where I was and what was happening around me. My heart was pounding like a sledgehammer. This is the 3rd it’s happened to me. I was scared to go back to sleep because of how it made me feel. It’s really awful to go through this. Only those like me will no what’s it like to experience this terrible nightmare as I would call it.
    Don’t Know what caused this.
    I have been diagnosed with depression/anxiety. Maybe this could be a cause.

  • Hey, my Girlfriend sometimes wakes up and doesn’t know who I am. A lot of the time she just turns over and goes back to sleep just in case I wake up and speak to her. In her head she knows it’s me but her brain just doesn’t seem to do the same. She remembers this in the morning hence how I know. It scares her a lot. She’s going through a lot of stress and takes medication. Thank u for this article I can tell her tomorrow what is happening coz I think she struggles to understand it and it upsets her
    Kirsty

  • Hi
    This started happening to my husband about 2-3 years ago. He is 25 years old. It only happens about once or twice a year so we haven’t been to the doctor about it. It honestly scares me every time it happens and it actually just happened to him tonight. It only happens when he is woken up suddenly after being asleep for less than an hour.

    This time I heard him get up and go to the bathroom. I thought everything was fine until I heard a banging noise. I walked in to ask what was going on and he was under the sink in the cabinet. I couldn’t see what he was doing but our sink pipe was disconnected and nasty water was everywhere. He said “I’m trying to make the noise stop”. Since he’s had these before I knew what was going on so I tried to get him back in bed but he wouldn’t go. He kept cursing and yelling at me saying it wasn’t his fault. He also kept locking himself in different rooms to get away from me and kept saying “my team/the team will be mad at me”.

    He’s never hurt me physically, although the words can definitely make me upset and this time they did. I usually end up crying wondering why this happens to him and once he comes to he gets upset and sad. This time he was scared to go back to sleep because he didn’t want to hurt me.

    What should we do? I’ll take any advice honestly because even though it doesn’t happen often it’s happened enough that I can’t take it anymore.

    • Get a sleep study done ASAP. You can put locks on your doors and motion lighta these will often help wake him up. Dont ever try to stop a person doing this. You are not a part of their dream just let them wake up. If its coming put of no where I would see a psychologist. I think most people with these Confusional Arousals have mental health problems as well like anxiety, depression, & PTSD so as long as there is no other daytime strange behavior you can relax knowing its prob nothing like Schizophrenia. Also if he drinks, takes melatonin or sleep aids I recommended a period without. If he takes SSRIs you might consider taking them in the morning to help avoid these unhappy little aide effects. I wake up and see people staring at me. I throw pillows, scream and have even ran down stairs but usually wake with in 10 to 2p seconds. If its going on for long periods that is a different but similar sort of sleep disorder. I also occasionally see Giant spiders. On occasion Ive tried to use my closet door to get to the bathroom or thought my alarm clock was my lamp or forgot where I was for a moment. Also my husband and kids know never to wake me up by getting close to my face or they are likely to get punched. Ive always been this way but many things aggravate it, especially stress!

  • For me it’s always the same, I wake up next to my boyfriend and can’t recognize him (probably not knowing where I am as well :) So I trip out that I have a stranger in my bed and then I try to live or put some clothes on. And then I slowly start to recognize him and fall asleep again OR I wake up and stay up for a little while until I come down.

    • Yes! I do this all the time… He often wakes up with me shining a light in his face trying to work out who he is. I also think he’s my daughter sometimes. In fact I do loads of different things but this one is one I’ve done a lot. I’ve even left the room trying to find him

      • Same here lol ahh the stories. I blame SSRIs they really do a number on your sleep cycles! Sometimes I touch his face and its so dumb lol I think we know whats happening but just need confirmation to go back to sleep soundly. Im pretty sure we wouldnt want to shine lights on and arose a stranger in bed with us 😁

  • I just woke up from a nap this eve. thinking it was the next day. I jolted awake, wondering what time it was. My phone said 7:00. I thought it was in the am. (Really wasn’t).

    I don’t have to go to work till 9:30am tomorrow so I decided to go back to sleep and set my alarm for 8:30am. It took me a few minutes to figure out why the alarm kept saying that it would ring in 13 and a half hours!

    Duh! Lol I laughed and made dinner.

  • I wake up and will not understand what I am looking at and then after a couple of seconds, I will realize it is the bureau, or the tree out the window, etc. I have been taking bisoprolol (beta blocker) and apixaban (blood thinner) so I suspect that this is a side effect of one of them, although it took a year to happen – I have looked at forums and it seems other people on one of these drugs, around my age and after a year of taking the medication had similar experiences. It has also happened a couple of times just after dusk and once in the day, but perhaps that has more to do with losing contrast sensitivity.

  • my boyfriend was in the navy and wakes up either not knowing where he is or thinks he is still on the ship. He works 2nd shift and already has a problem sleeping. he was not sure why 5 years after getting out of the service he is now all of a sudden having this issue. some people have told him it is PTSD but it is not affecting his life except for being tired. have any other military people commented about this? could be another study in itself

  • I’ve been traveling a lot for work, and frequently don’t sleep well the first few nights in a hotel, but it’s the confusion I feel when I wake up in the middle of the night when I am back home that is the weirdest. Often I dont remember where I am and think that I am on travel, then I became alarmed that someone is sleeping next to me, and I’m convinced that it is a coworker who crawled into the same bed as me after I fell asleep. I’ll often get up and leave the room in search of another place to sleep and make it to the next room or even downstairs before I realize that I am at home, and the person sleeping next to me is my husband. Other times I wake up convinced that there is a guest in the house, and I need to do something to make sure that something inappropriate doesn’t happen (like wearing revealing pajamas and running into them in the hallway or worried that I left underwear in the common bathroom). My guess is that the disorientation is a result of all my traveling, and the sense of impropriety is a result of having grown up I’m the Bible belt.

  • I wake up looking for the kids that I am supposably babysitting or the dog I was dog sitting and I am frantic looking everywhere. I wake up my husband and ask him where are the kids or the dogs ? He is puzzled and I keep asking him worried. What is going on?

  • I have been under a lot of stress and I am having spells of waking up and not knowing where I am . There is fear involved; I don’t know who’s house I am at or where a light is to turn off. I did have this happen to me while visiting family who were remodeling.

  • Ever since I was little I remember my sister waking up by herself and being totally delusional. She would talk slowly, always asking me something that makes no sense. Then she starts doing nonlogical things and just falls asleep. About ten minutes ago I woke her up and she acted the same but it was the first time she didn’t wake up by herself. She never remembers these episodes. Is this serious?

    • Hi Ena
      As long as she’s not harming herself or others in her sleep, and her daily life is not being affected, then it’s probably nothing to worry about. Try not to wake her up though if she has incidents when woken by someone. If she, or the family, is concerned, a chat with her personal doctor about it might help.
      Regards
      Ethan

  • This explains things so much. I’ll wake up super panicked all the time. For example, I took a nap, and at 8pm I woke up, looked at the clock, saw that it was 8pm, and even though it was dark outside and my school starts at 8:30 am, I ran downstairs and started getting angry at my dad, asking him why he didn’t wake me up to take me to school. He was super confused asking me what I was talking about, and then all of a sudden I snapped out of it.
    Another weird case was when I woke up at 2:30am, and I grabbed my phone, looked at the time, and for some reason I freaked out and thought I was late to school, again. Even though the phone said “2:30am,” my brain read it as “8am.” So I ran down the dark hallway of my house and woke up my friend, telling him we were late to school. He was super confused and then told me it was 2:30. That’s when I snapped out of it.
    After about a year of not experiencing this, it happened again last night. I always lock my bedroom door before sleeping, but last night, I woke up at midnight, and ran to my door. I shook the door handle and freaked out, thinking I was locked in forever. I started shaking the handle and yelling for help. After a few minutes, I snapped out of it and realized I could unlock the door handle from my side (obviously).
    I’ve experienced it more times than this but it’s super bizarre when it happens and always makes me feel anxious while it’s occurring lol.

  • One night I remember the lights being on, and I was standing up, so I sleepily started to get ready for the morning. I got clothes out of my closet and dresser and changed into them. Next I went to the bathroom to wash my face. When I walked across the hall to the bathroom it was pitch dark but I was too sleepy to realize. Once I got into the bathroom I finally looked back in time and realized that the hall I just walked through was pitched dark. I then went into my room and checked the clock to see that it was 3 am in the morning. I never remember getting up to turn on the light, I do remember doing everything else but my mind was not awake enough to stop, and this has happened twice in the past 2 weeks. I have barely ever sleepwalked in my life and I am just curious why the same thing has happened twice very recently. Thank you.

  • I just recently started the habit of waking up at 9:30 pm after having just one hour of I think a very deep sleep and not knowing if its 9:30 Am or PM.. I start my tea, get ready for work and then takes me a few minutes to figure out its PM and I go back to bed to wake up again every 2-3 hours. This is a new phenomenon for me. Does that fall into the same category as the above confusional arrousals

  • My husband hits and kicks me at night. He threatens me and makes wild accusations. He is out of it until 7 a.m. when he morphs into a nice guy.

    Because his first wife left him, I am teaching him that if I sleep in another room it is not to leave him like she did. It is so we both sleep well.

    • Kiki
      Thanks for your comment. That sounds like a difficult and delicate situation. Has he spoken to his doctor about it? If he is violently moving about in his sleep, it’s something that needs to be checked properly.
      Regards
      Ethan

    • There are really good treatments out there for these things. Go see someone and get some help. You could also lay with your husband until he falls asleep and than move rooms a few nights a week :) People will be suspicious though as abusive persons have hid behind sleep disorders to mask abusive reaponses to anger. There is no such thing as right or wrong ways to love and live with someone as long as it works for you!

  • I sometimes wake at night to make the bed or some other chore for my son or mother, neither of which live in the home. Last night I left the bathroom light on most of the night expecting my mother to get-up and go to bed…however, mom wasn’t at my house. This has occurred before but never 3 nights in a row. I just returned home from a 2-week trip away, perhaps this had something to do with it. Thank you.

  • I fell asleep on the sofa. When I woke up I asked my husband where she was. I was actually looking for my mother who died 32 years ago. I went and looked for her. I have done this a couple of times before. I even asked my husband who he was. This kind of thing terrifies me as I am a very anxious person. I also take panic attacks.

  • Hi
    I have this problem since childhood i wake up in panic and ask questions or start shouting pointing to the walls or curtains .. (i lost my father at the age of 8 and my mother chose to spend her whole life with her young three children instead of starting a new life. After my father death we used to live alone in our house and at the age of 9 i started feeling my mother’s fear of living alone with small children which she always tried to hide it ) i have sleep paralyze problem but it happens once or twice a year when i’m so scared or depressed. But 4 months back my mother had a road accident and i found her in a hospital in very critical condition. that time was very stressful and after that this happens to me more than once a week i wake up in panic and start questioning my husband about the things they don’t make sense.

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